Perception of ownership

 Being overly considerate can be perceived as nonchalance or indifference.

Unerring perception of "ownership" in a relationship that is attained and not gained by blood rights sure is infuriating and serpentine, which is equally brittle to any foray. However, being overly conscious or thoughtful about it can too cause a scratch despite the form of compassion.
That is said, if it is not imparted avowedly, your act of judiciousness can be misconstrued at times.

Sometimes possession is owned without saying out loud, specifically in a relationship (not just in love relations but any kind of romantic one, which is not "specified by nature".
To be more precise, relationships which are built, acquired over the time and not provided by nature or blood, like friends, benevolent, colleagues etc.
If you develop a relationship over time, I believe it is up to you of how much possession you want to have in that other person's life, the rights.

Rights to intervene, right to infer, right to demand answers of actions, rights for clarification, rights to advice, rights to desire, rights to spoil and be indulged and many more.
Certainly, it is evermore not upto you to decide as it involves another individual(s) of that kinship; however, sometimes it indeed is absolutely up to YOU.
There should not be any embarrassment or discomfiture involved in the process.

Alright, let us be more explicit about it.
Let us say, you and I, we have grown a comfortable, friendly bond for a longer time, which you can name as just a random close-kinship. Just because it is not by-default (blood bond), we tend to be rather cautious and overly considerate about the "should" and "should not" of the relationship, which are required remarkable attention. Eventually, over time we start to grow with the relationship in becoming more and more comfortable.
The time length and the process are different for every person and every relationship.

Take me for an example, I sync almost compactly in every relationship I make.
How?
Because over time, I have become capable of inferring to claim the possessions or rights without being expressed words.
Does every one of those bonds lead to success?
No!
Of course, not every attempt can be successful, but not every step is a failure either.

Then again, just because there involves some uncertainty preceded by little embarrassment or distastefulness, it is unfortunate to let it be a scratch on a relationship, if however, that is a precious one to hold on to. Indeed, one needs to be considerate, careful of making an assumption but being overly conscious and holding back while showing "you are okay with this while you are not" also can be perceived as a form of nonchalance, as in "you do not care enough".

Even though I say it all, not always I can be expressive about everything either, which is why I decide to make an effort of understanding or asking, seeking even if that wish is brushed off or ignored and causes awkwardness. Same goes for assessments or extension of one's right into the other's life, where it might arise the question "Do I have the right to do so?".
It is something that ought to be perceived by oneself, which will be comprehensible through exploring the kinship.
Other parties will not come and point out "you have right to this and this, but do not have here and there".

In brief, I prefer to take the embarrassment of hearing "None of your business" or "I do not owe you a clarification or bound to answer" instead of staying silent and be sad or angry or disappointed all by myself. Even though I think of acting considerate, which I am not by the action, not always it is considered as "being commiserative", rather rendered as apathy or indifference "to concern enough". And that is also counted as "making an effort" to behold the relationship, hence, paucity of it does implies an example of not-making-effort.

Hence forth, instead of being all unhappy or mulling over a situation and abruptly turning over in one's mind, people should just make an effort to confront and get a clear concept of things despite the consequences of repugnance or blatantness.
Because, the relationship is worth enough of that effort.